Been A While...

This Morning my friend Janet gave me a polite nudge to return to my first love and put pen to paper, just seeing her having the courage to finally start hers reminded me of mine and how I've missed this, considering how much has happened since I last posted eight months ago, from my personal life and in society and globally, so much to write about, many moments that have made me miss being on TV…

Yes I am currently off air, been eight months since I took the hiatus actually...

For 10years all I’ve known is being on screen, yes with a couple of breaks in-between, but all the same on-screen has been the only thing I’ve known. Granted there is always room for improvement in everything we do and I still plan on returning some-day, but not in the same capacity and until I’m sure of how I want to do it, I'll wait... & only until it's abundantly clear then I will return...

For now though, I’m happy to take up a new challenge, grow, learn, make mistakes, fail, succeed, whatever comes I’m ready (but I’m gunning for success!;-) because when you give 100% to something the least you will ever get back is knowledge and wisdom to stir you in the right direction…

I am now behind the scenes in the programming department; sourcing for content, acquiring, scheduling and hopefully in my own small way become a Game Changer…

Just today I had a meeting with a Producer who’s content moved me to the core and confirmed for me that this new path may be uncharted waters for me, but I am right where I need to be, doing just what I’m supposed to be doing. She may not even realize the impact she had on me today, but she reminded me to stay on course and breathe life to the Bigger Picture…

Another recent encounter, this time from KOT whom I think sometimes need a taste of their own medicine that’s why I never shy away from shutting down the one’s who think they can speak authoritatively about your life yet only speak from a void…  Anyway as I rant away…

An article was posted about the rise of strong, single (not married), successful women and posing the question whether this is the new trend? Whether this is the New Nairobi Woman? And though he gave most of us a pat on the back for not choosing to wallow in misery if I could put it that way, I also need to say that the reality for many of us single women, is that it's not really by choice, especially those of us with children, but we choose to get on with it, keep moving and make the best of what we have regardless of our marital status, when you have children looking up to you, you really must be the best version of yourself.

To fellow single women, especially single Moms take it all in stride, love God, put your Kids First and keep working hard, your efforts will never go unnoticed even if it takes a while and if you stay in God, He will surely Grant you your hearts Desires, plus He gives you the Grace and such a strong sense of Purpose which comes with such content and fulfillment, so I urge you all to seek the Source.

Lastly it's quite clear that I'm not the only one with zeal and hope to go after my dreams after POTUS left behind a Spirit of belief that has now made Kenya the Hot-Bed of Promise, Hope and Potential.

I was blown away by his work-ethic, it was a three day packed schedule, back to back, and each time if you all noticed he got better with each speech, he kept time with each engagement and he was fully present giving only 100% each and every time and moving on to the next, whether it was time with his family, or delivering the key note speech or even paying his respects at August Memorial Park... Each and every time he gave his undivided attention, dealt with the issue at hand and on to the next! 

What a Powerful reminder from the World's most Powerful Man! to always be Present and keep moving, no time to bask in any Glory! but keep moving, keep working, keep delivering and ofcourse Keep Believing... For at the end of the day, we are only as good as our last show!! (A little TV Jargon)

Be Blessed...

More to come:-)

I am not a Man But...

I am not a Man, but I am Praying for the Men of Our Country! It's time to Rise to the Occasion... The number one Role of Man is to Protect the Woman!!

Today Mr.President said, that the Onus is on us to be our Brothers Keepers!! True to a certain level... much like I've been saying, a lot needs to be re-learned, since when was it first instinct to take out a phone & record, instead of HELP!! But clearly that's a very long conversation Society needs to be ready for! So My Star today is LSK Chairman Eric Mutua & his team, who are calling for these men to be Prosecuted!! I just Pray that our Security Officers actually follow suit... ‪#‎LordHelpUs‬

His Mercies... My Truths...

My Dear Hearts... Teach Mommy Patience, Love & Commitment... And convict Mommy to Always "Test Everything, But Hold on to what is Good" 1Thessalonians 5:21. 

Mommy is not Perfect, but His Grace is Sufficient to guide me on this Life Long Commitment to Raise Children who will see the value of Philippians 4:8 "Whatever is True, Whatever is Noble, Whatever is Right, Whatever is Pure, Whatever is Lovely, Whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent & praise worthy, think about such things" If I had a Son, this too would be my Prayer & Desire for him to grow up knowing & embracing. 

To all the Ladies who have shared with me, their horrifying experiences at the hands of Men who don't know any better! From the bottom of my heart I empathise & wish we were having different debates in this Century, because just like the Woman who is battered by her Husband continually with no help from Authorities this too needs to cause a Mind Shift... Men like DNG have tugged at my heart, let's reach out to this Men... Understand what the issues are, address them if possible... And as I've been saying all along! Our Leaders please help... This is the Time to Rise to the Occasion & indeed communicate that such acts have dire consequences. #Peace

My Dress My Choice... Let's Think LONG-TERM!

A lady asks me why I push for Women to Celebrate themselves! My constant rant on celebrating Curves and here I am saying otherwise!? No am not… 

Don't get me WRONG! I am calling for long term solutions & not knee jerk reactions! appeal to our leaders to take ACTION! teach our Kids differently! I am all for Celebration! But as your their CELEBRATING! There is the uneducated lot who don't see it that way! So guess what this will take longer than we think... 

Let's us fight for Education!! And for LAWS! That Protect Us!! Such inhumane Acts call for Persecution, but then what!? We Punish those Hooligans! But don't deal with the underlying Problem! In order for us to reach that place we so desire, let us strive to educate. My heart is really in the right Place… A Revolution takes time, let us think through what to do and how to do it RIGHT! Let's Think LONGTERM...

More Than Meets the Eye... Expounding on My Dress My Choice!

There is definitely more than meets the Eye Here... My point in all this if you read through my post in it's entirety, is yes I see a Co-relation... Our Society as a Whole!! Is one Big ROT! No Respect for self, for laws or for each other. In no way which again was very clear in my post, have I condoned those vicious acts! Infact my heart broke when I watched the clip of the Mombasa Lady... 

The lack of understanding here is the sad part! My problem was the hashtag, which like I made very clear has the right intention, but I also am aware what else it communicates to a certain majority... This Stripping is not new!! I grew up being told that Infact because of my Body, there is is no way I could wear anything to flatter my curves, but instead hide! 

Haya fast forward 2014!! The issue is still here and on an even larger scale... An alarming one! Just yesterday it happened again after the hashtags & call to Protest! These Pervs are taking advantage of the situation until the LAW! Is put in place! Where are our Female Reps!? Our Leaders!? Our Security Officers!!? Violence of any kind & inhumane acts such as these can not in any way ever be justified & need to be dealt with ASAP!! 

What we need to drive for are yes immediate & Longterm solutions... Immediate is push for laws that Protect us women & Longterm is to raise our girls & boys differently... This will take time! Education is the way forward! Let's end this now! So that the next Generation knows better. I believe is what my Post Communicated.

My Dress My Choice... Not Really...

And here's why... I see teen girls who dress no different from twilight-girls and at merely 13!! They are out of the house not even aware of what they are communicating to the opposite sex their age or older... And now with Parents having no time, as we build empires, go back to school for an MBA, no time to bond with the growing teen or even take them to church... I understand where they pick there values from, with this Global Village we live in... Rihanna, Nicki, Kim... The list is endless!! Give a majority of our girls the easier route out, because it's so much harder to emulate women like- Cina Lawson- Togo Minister of Post & Telecommunications, or Maud Chifamba 14yr Old University Accounting Student from Zimbabwe, (refer to latest Forbes Africa Most Powerful Women Under 45 Article) or even more familiar names like Oprah or Sheryl SandBerg who show that Hard Work & Value still go a long way.

My point is, I feel this Generation feels too entitled! I understand the need to express yourself, but to some extent this "My Dress, My Choice" Movement, though with it's heart in the right place, will only be an excuse for some girls to dress skimpily, which as I grow older... I am made to understand is personal choice of-course, so what to do but Respect that...

However I feel like this is the wrong approach! Don't fix a wrong with a "wrong" & by that I mean taking to the streets will not change much, just today these street hooligans are at it again! the strike could just make these foolish men fight even more, instead it's time to begin changing the conversations in our Homes, Schools, and social gatherings...This will take time!! Let's teach our girls to have self-value again, and teach our Men to honour & respect us. Humanity is a RIGHT! So those violent acts must have consequences, but let us also find permanent solutions for Man & Woman to Co-exist.

So to all those who may read this with some ignorance, this part is for you... I am not condoning the Violent Acts at all! But all am saying is that Hashtags and Protest will not communicate effectively to the illiterate touts, but Laws that Govern and Protect for the Safety of Humanity, of Women, these idots need to know that what they are doing is punishable buy law! so question is where are our Women Reps!? What actions are being taken? In the meantime let's Raise Boys who know better and Women who Challenge them to continually Step Up. #HumanRightsForAll is better Hashtag.

My Response...

Seeing us I can live in my bubble, just read Njoki Chege's piece on "Fat=Cheating", plus her interview on the Trend, & now her new article today on pretty much GoldDigging, well my 2cents here, if it matters really, is I get it! I really honestly do get where she's coming from on both articles; But here is my issue- My kids are now 3yrs and am probably my heaviest now & though I may be much busier, truth is if I wanted to, I would be making healthier choices, but sometimes as women & men likewise we tend to get comfortable & lazy & also one thing am learning especially for me as a single Mom, because I don't have a man to come home too I come to a place of acceptance & unconditional love from my two girls, so that pressure isn't really there, but in real essence how it should be is, only until a woman realizes that she needs to get to a place where she needs to workout for herself, eat better for herself, dress smarter, all these things should be because you love your body, it's your temple take care of it & you'll be surprised at the confidence you'll get if you do it for you...

 All must be to done for your good, don't do it for your partner, that said the bible is clear that "The Woman will crave the attention of a Man" So it all goes back to knowing your worth & that He made you beautiful, so if your spirit is right you'll also want your body to catch up with it, so do it for you!! Because a man won't cheat because your fat! He'll make the choice to cheat anyway, so you'll do all these things to impress him only to be cheated on, then loose the will to even try to look beautiful, because the reason you look beautiful every morning is for him & not you, so that correlation between weight gain=cheating is not that black & white, because Though men are visual beings, cheating is a choice! And he who makes the decision to has the problem, and that should not be pegged on your weight. A good man would simply address it head on & you work as a partners to bring out the best in each other. I could go on forever really, but calm down people Njoki Chege is only doing what I've always had a problem with- Maximizing on Controversy, sucks but that's what sells, but I must say that I like that she is starting necessary conversations., though leaving a sour taste for many...

Her new article, Well... I actually posted a similar one on this blog earlier this year; Revelations... My view then... But more evolved... Only thing constant in life is change eh;-)