My Response...

Seeing us I can live in my bubble, just read Njoki Chege's piece on "Fat=Cheating", plus her interview on the Trend, & now her new article today on pretty much GoldDigging, well my 2cents here, if it matters really, is I get it! I really honestly do get where she's coming from on both articles; But here is my issue- My kids are now 3yrs and am probably my heaviest now & though I may be much busier, truth is if I wanted to, I would be making healthier choices, but sometimes as women & men likewise we tend to get comfortable & lazy & also one thing am learning especially for me as a single Mom, because I don't have a man to come home too I come to a place of acceptance & unconditional love from my two girls, so that pressure isn't really there, but in real essence how it should be is, only until a woman realizes that she needs to get to a place where she needs to workout for herself, eat better for herself, dress smarter, all these things should be because you love your body, it's your temple take care of it & you'll be surprised at the confidence you'll get if you do it for you...

 All must be to done for your good, don't do it for your partner, that said the bible is clear that "The Woman will crave the attention of a Man" So it all goes back to knowing your worth & that He made you beautiful, so if your spirit is right you'll also want your body to catch up with it, so do it for you!! Because a man won't cheat because your fat! He'll make the choice to cheat anyway, so you'll do all these things to impress him only to be cheated on, then loose the will to even try to look beautiful, because the reason you look beautiful every morning is for him & not you, so that correlation between weight gain=cheating is not that black & white, because Though men are visual beings, cheating is a choice! And he who makes the decision to has the problem, and that should not be pegged on your weight. A good man would simply address it head on & you work as a partners to bring out the best in each other. I could go on forever really, but calm down people Njoki Chege is only doing what I've always had a problem with- Maximizing on Controversy, sucks but that's what sells, but I must say that I like that she is starting necessary conversations., though leaving a sour taste for many...

Her new article, Well... I actually posted a similar one on this blog earlier this year; Revelations... My view then... But more evolved... Only thing constant in life is change eh;-)